As the seasons shift, so do our moods—and sometimes, those changes go deeper than we think, and sadness creeps in. You might notice your partner becoming distant, withdrawn, or irritable around the same time each year. While we often chalk it up to “seasonal blues,” there could be something more serious behind it: Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD).
SAD is a type of depression that typically occurs during the darker months of autumn and winter. It affects both men and women, although it’s often underdiagnosed in men—many of whom may appear angry, disconnected, or even apathetic rather than openly “sad.”
Change of Season—Change of Heart?
If your partner’s energy drops, sleep increases, or emotional availability disappears just as the weather shifts, it might not be relationship trouble—it could be SAD.
SAD can strain relationships, especially when it’s misunderstood. A partner may misinterpret the symptoms as disinterest, detachment, or even rejection. That’s why recognizing the signs is essential. You’re not just dealing with mood swings; you may be witnessing a mental health disorder that needs compassionate attention.
Common Symptoms of SAD:
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Persistent sadness or low mood
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Loss of interest in usual activities
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Fatigue or low energy
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Sleeping more than usual
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Difficulty concentrating
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Increased appetite or cravings
What You Can Do
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Start the Conversation—Approach your partner gently and ask how they’re feeling. Naming “seasonal sadness” can be a relief in itself.
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Get Support—SAD is treatable. Therapy, light therapy, medication, and lifestyle changes all help.
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Be Compassionate—Understand that this isn’t about you; it’s about what their brain and body are experiencing in response to the seasonal cycle.
Laurian Ward, I am a counselling psychologist based in Pretoria East. I offer a safe, supportive space to help individuals and couples navigate the complexities of emotional and mental well-being. Learn more about how I navigate mood-related therapy challenges, including seasonal affective shifts, at https://psychologistpretoriaeast.co.za.
You can also connect with Laurian directly through her Facebook page here: facebook.com/laurianwardpsychologist
